I, like most people, have an inner critic. She (as I like to think of her) tells me she thinks I'm doing something or did something wrong. Sometimes she can make me feel bad, sad, angry, depressed, and ready to give up on what I am doing.
But the reality is that having an inner critic is not always a bad thing. Sometimes she forces me to take a look at something I've done and redo it to a better standard. She can also make me aware of how I acted in a certain situation and allow me to do better next time I'm in a similar situation. In fact, she can improve me in many different ways if I don't let her drag me down into the depths of despair!
So I've found a way to help me deal with her no matter she is saying to me. This routine allows me to take the information in and use it to my advantage to better myself, or to move ahead and try something that I otherwise would have let pass by due to fear.
First I hear the information with my ego. I can't help it. When my inner critic tells me that I'm not good enough or that I'm doing something wrong it can be really hard to not let it affect my ego. But that period doesn't last long because I quickly remind myself that my inner critic is just trying to help me be better and possibly doesn't know any better.
Next I analyze whether the information is really true and is backed up by proof. Just because my inner critic tells me that I didn't do enough, write enough, 4A0-109 practice test or try hard enough doesn't necessarily mean that it's true. My inner critic tends to go off of quick judgments and fear based feelings, and that doesn't always equal the truth. If there is no proof then I say to my inner critic "Show me the proof and then we will talk!" and she normally shuts up at that point.
However if the proof is there and the information is correct then I go through a process of trying to figure out exactly what my inner critic is telling me. For example if she tells me that I didn't put enough effort in, and it's apparent I didn't, then I ask her what I could have done to put more effort in. She may tell me any number of things like I could have written more articles or I could have confronted a challenge that I wanted to face, and I take the information in and acknowledge it.
Then, so I don't ever have to hear that same complaint from my inner critic again, I schedule what I could have done into my calendar or to-do list and make sure that I tackle it the next chance I get. For example if my inner critic told me to write more articles about listening to my inner critic, then I may schedule a day at the library writing articles on top of articles about that subject.
This process allows me to face my inner critic head on and tell her to shove off if she's wrong or ask her to help me get better if she's right. If I stop at the first step and let her affect my ego then I can spend hours sulking and not being very productive. That's why I always ASC-097 try to push myself through the whole process and come out more productive because of it.
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